Welcome, Michele Arnoldy, as our guest blogger this week! Michele heads up our Mentor Team here at MORE Mentoring and we are thrilled to have her share her thoughts below.
Raising children and fueling a marriage at the same time can be so difficult! When that first home pregnancy test shows positive, your marriage, as you knew it, will never be the same. Children have a way of monopolizing time, money, sleep and energy. How can romance stay present when almost all of your resources are directed to your children?
Generations of couples have faced the same question and the solution still remains the same: Intentionality. We will be intentional about the things that are important to us.
My husband, Chris, and I brainstormed a few inexpensive ways we have been intentional in our marriage with children. We are pleased to share them with you. Maybe these examples will spark some of your own ideas.
- Plan a date night once per week. Take turns planning the date. Be creative. Try to surprise each other with a new experience. When is the last time you did something for the first time?
- Is getting a sitter not an option? Get dressed up for your husband, put the kids to bed and have a date night at home.
- I put a small chalkboard in our bathroom and write notes of love and encouragement to my Chris. I often thank him for working so hard to provide for our family.
- Make your hubby a homemade card using magazines to cut out words and pictures of fun things you have done together or display your little inside jokes.
- Browse a bookstore with your favorite coffee drinks.
- Play board games or challenge each other with your children’s video games!
- Tennis anyone? Bowling?
- Go for a night swim.
- When on a road trip, play Trivial Pursuit, 21 questions or Categories (Choose a category like toothpaste, alternate naming a brand. Whoever cannot name another, loses.)
- Chris says: “Sleep naked. Nothing should be a barrier between a husband and his wife.” (He takes ALL responsibility for this suggestion.) Flannel and t-shirts do change the attraction for our visual husbands.
- I put effort into looking “put together” when Chris comes home and immediately greet him with affection!
- Camp out in your own back yard. (Yes, in a tent!)
I had a mentor share with me to make a list of bad ideas. That very list will often lead you to many good ones.
Be intentional. You won’t regret it!
Thanks, Michele and Chris, for these great ideas! Please add your other creative ideas in the Comments below. Let's make it a great summer of putting intentional fun back in our marriages!